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How To Tell If EFT Is Right For You

How To Tell If EFT Is Right For You

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What is EFT?Couple who stated couples therapy at Unload it Therapy in Houston Tx

Emotionally focused therapy is a great model because it works for many different populations, including individuals, families, and couples. EFT research says that it is a highly effective model with a 90% success rate. 75% of couples will move from distressed to be more content in their relationship. Also, growing research demonstrates the model’s efficacy when working with LGBTQ+ couples and those in polyamorous relationships.

EFT aims to help couples re-engage with one another, deepen their bond, and reorganize their dance steps. The emotionally focused therapy model has three stages and nine steps of the model. This model’s gift shows the couple how much they need one another and reignite the flames they once shared for one another.

Can this work for me?

Usually our EFT Therapist will use this model for couples therapy. If both parties are committed to the process and the relationship, yes, it can work! The truth is, relationships need to be maintained and worked at over time. When in couples therapy, there is no difference. Being in marriage counseling is not where the couple gets to lay back and allows the therapist to do the heavy lifting. That is not going to be helpful at all. Instead, all parties involved (therapist included) are an active part of the change. In EFT, the therapist works diligently to validate each person’s experience in the relationship.

The EFT model is impressive at helping couples (individuals and families) who have experienced attachment injuries to heal from them and make new meaning. Eft works very well with couples who have experienced infidelity.

Couple who is having therapy at Unload it Therapy with Roma Williams using the EFT model. The eft model is effective for couples and individualsWhat are the Risks?

With all therapy, there can be risks. However, your therapist will do thorough assessment both initially and going to help to minimize risks. However, EFT does have limits. The therapy model is not helpful for couples engaging in an active affair. Being in an active affair is one of the contraindications of EFT. Other contraindications of the model include active and untreated substance use and psychosis.

EFT and Safety

All parties in the relationship need to feel safe. I refer to safety beyond physical safety, although active partner violence is a contraindication for EFT treatment. It is essential for the couple to feel emotionally safe in session to deepen emotions and connection. If either partner does not feel safe, then emotionally focused couples therapy won’t work. However, another possibility is EFiT or emotionally focused individual therapy.

The Human Experience

By reading this, I will assume that you are human. If that is true, then EFT can work for you! We, as humans, have feelings. We get scared, become hurt, angered, triggered, and all desire connection at the basic human level. Emotionally focused therapy gives all of our emotions a voice at an individualized level that can work for us.

Emotionally focused therapy is a beautiful model that I chose to work to become certified. As a black therapist, I think it is essential to know how to hold space for people and their emotions. It is a gift and a skill to be able to do that for my clients. I also consider it to be an honor of mine to be able to do.

If you have any further questions about this model or our Houston-based practice, contact us for more information!

About the Author

Roma Williams is a Houston based licensed marriage and family therapist, who is also licensed in the state of Georgia. Her specialities and clinical interests are relationships. Roma enjoys working with couples, including LGBTQ+ and those who live in polyamorous relationships. Roma also enjoys working with individuals on their relationships with self and others. Being a California native, and moving to the south in her adult years, Roma has had a great deal of experiences that have shape her cultural development both professionally and personally. In her spare time, Roma enjoys fashion, fun, and traveling.

If you are in Houston or in any part of Texas or Georgia, California, or Florida and are ready to work with Roma click here.


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